Last Thursday I met a very close girl friend for happy hour. I had not seen her in about 6 weeks, so it was long overdue. Since moving into my new home, things had been hectic and I had not taken the time to see her. We had a drink and were talking when she got the worst call one can imagine. Her 18-year-old son was calling her to let her know that her love, her boyfriend of 7 years, had died. He was on the way to the airport and had a tragic car accident. OMG, she almost dropped to the floor… it was so awful. So painful. I was with her that night and many friends and family came to console her. The next day I spent with her and the family. He left behind his mother (in her 80’s), 3 kids (all adults), 5 grandkids and my friend and her son, who lived with him.
After the funeral and grieving for 4 days, she finally started to get herself together and I was hit by many emotions myself. It was shocking to find out he had not updated his will since 2008 and that she was not even mentioned in the will. She is left with nothing, and he had a lot! The things that starting creeping into my mind were strange, but maybe normal….
Was I living my life how I truly wanted it to be? Was I prepared if something like this happened to me or my husband? Was I being the best mother, wife, daughter and friend I could be?
He lived life fast… partied, drove fast, did not wear his seat belt, always in a hurry… yes, he had a lot of money, but he was never truly happy.
I want to do better myself… this year I am going to change. I am going to stop the “party train” and focus on health, fitness, family and happiness… true happiness. There is a lot more to the journey, but I will get into the details in upcoming posts.
He tried to get her to go with him at the last minute. She declined because we had plans. Oh – thank God.
RIP my friend.
I love my new life! 