Sober Stress Relief and Friends

Stress relief is the major concern I have with my coming year of testing sober living. I think I use wine to escape my responsibilities. This is not a good thing, I know. It gives me a break from work and home responsibilities and lets my mind go free for an hour or two.

Those are the excuses I use, anyway.

So I’m trying to come up with other healthy ways to get to that same place. I know I would like to replace wine and use some of these for stress relief:

  • Exercise
  • Yoga
  • Stretching
  • Weight lifting
  • Saunas
  • Massages
  • Epsom salt baths
  • Pedicure
  • Bike rides
  • Walks on the beach
  • Painting
  • Drawing
  • Cooking
  • Reading
  • Writing

The second concern is my friends. Most of them drink and drink often like I do. So, those relationships may be changing. I don’t know that I will want to hang around for the drunk talk and silly redundant talk that happens when we sit at a bar or at my pool bar and drink.

I’m curious what others have done to overcome “wine-o-clock”… and the circle of drinking buddies… what did you do to break this habit? Please share any successes in the comments. I look forward to any suggestions or comments!


Published by lisamarie2015

I just turned 50 and am ready to make 2020 the year of major change for myself and my family! I am a realtor, an artist and a fitness lover. I am ready to tackle some of those difficult things in life that seem to get put off and put off and see where this new road of focus and intention takes me.

8 thoughts on “Sober Stress Relief and Friends

  1. This is inspiring me. I use to paint and it was a great stress reliever! I love yoga too. Have you heard of Ashwaghanda ? Spelling may be off but is a natural herb that takes the edge off. GNC carries it and it works for me.


  2. I had to give up one of my drinking buddies. Once sober I could see how pathetic the relationship had been. Someone phrased it as would you want your child or loved ones to hang with this person. As far as wine thirty, I try to either get outside on a walk or exercise. Also, sometimes I just chill with a decaf coffee or ginger ale and come out here to catch up and support others. Within your social group I’m sure there’s a few who don’t drink. Start planning more social time with them. Having a plan for those “times” is key and you’re ahead of the game for realizing that.

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  3. I’m in early days- just 36 days sober today. What I’m finding to help is going to bed early with a book (this is number one) if I have to, allowing myself to do whatever I need to to not drink (including eating a bag of candy – I’m worrying about losing weight later. Sobriety first.), not putting too many social obligations or expectations on myself, and reading good books about sobriety every day (like Mrs. D or The Unexpected Joy of Bring Sober).

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    1. I love the idea of going to bed early with a book. I know last “dry January”
      I found myself watching stupid tv shows I would never watch to pass that time. I hope to be more meaningful in my choices this year and make new habits and desires. Thanks for sharing. I will check out those books.

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