If I did not have to work what would I spend my time doing?

This is a question I ponder often. Because my husband is 15 years my senior and at retirement age I often battle with this question. I run a very successful service-based business (real estate), and my retirement age, if typical, is still 15 years away. However, we have built enough in savings that I could feasibly retire, although I would have to simplify and downsize/downshift.

I often feel that my current situation is not my true calling. But then I struggle with that because I have always been an entrepreneur and intrigued by building a successful, scalable business. I wonder how I would spend my time if I did not need to spend 40 to 80 hours per week on my business and all that comes along with it.. If I did not need to earn so much money, what would I do with my time?

Right now I am responsible for making enough money to pay for all of our expenses and our current lifestyle including travel. I also am responsible for providing support and leads for my team of agents which cost me approximately $80,000 a year. I also intern have to pay the salaries of my staff which currently cost me an additional $90,000 a year. All of these responsibilities and others relying on me cause me stress and a lot of time and energy is put into running this business.. The thought often crosses my mind about simplifying.

So I contemplate what it would be like if I did not run this business and I could do whatever I wanted all day. What would I spend my time doing? Would I be satisfied? Would I write more? Would I paint? Would I garden? Would I become a yoga fanatic? Would I become a health and lifestyle counselor? What would I do if given the opportunity to do anything in the world that I would like to do and am passionate about?

For many years I have craved simplicity. A simple life where my expenses are low and I live a life full of my passions, more like my grandparents did, just simpler. Is this even possible anymore?

I just have this annoying little feeling that something I am supposed to be doing is being shut down or held back. How do I get to the point where I can test this? If I wait until I’m too old the window will be gone! So my burning question is constantly if I should simplify now or when should I simplify to begin this exploration of the next phase in my life? I also still have two sons and they both are still in school and one has two years left and the other one has five years left before they graduate high school so this also comes into play when thinking about how to progress with this goal.

I know I am probably not alone in feeling this but I don’t know if this is a common feeling or if it’s an unusual feeling. I would love to hear from anyone else who is struggling with the same question. Please comment below and share your thoughts!


Published by lisamarie2015

I just turned 50 and am ready to make 2020 the year of major change for myself and my family! I am a realtor, an artist and a fitness lover. I am ready to tackle some of those difficult things in life that seem to get put off and put off and see where this new road of focus and intention takes me.

9 thoughts on “If I did not have to work what would I spend my time doing?

  1. Interesting how we all give up drinking and then start to examine our lives, what we are doing and where we are heading. The great thing is we all seem to be doing it in a very positive way with a ‘can do’ attitude. MsNL posted similar thoughts today too. I’m giving myself some time. I’m enjoying just thinking about options in a calm and relaxed way. Knowing that I can change things should I wish to, because I’m capable, in control and sober. 😁
    That said, I’m loving simplicity more and more. Xxx

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  2. It’s super common but most just stay where they are at because of the money and not because of passion. Girl, I quit my job of teaching after 14 years. My husband and I decided to give me ass a break to find myself. Most of the time I am bored af but some of the times I actually enjoy doing NOTHING and just taking one day at a time. It sucks too because I am always so goal oriented and organized as hell and not having a “job” makes me scattered brain. However, I don’t regret leaving because I finally just “do me” which isn’t as easy as I thought but I am glad I did it. I am still on this journey and I still don’t know what I want to do but I am trying to be okay with it. So if you do decide to just make things simpler, you may freak out in the beginning and question your worth because people equate job with their worth. However, I do feel life is too short to just work and make money to just die one day, lol

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  3. Simplifying your life before you stop working is a good transition. Deciding how you spend your time is something for you to think about now and start before stopping work. What you do is up to you. As MagneticMommyLife said doing nothing is enjoyable. Being comfortable with doing nothing is a transition too. Society pushes us to ‘be’ somebody when the reality is we already are who we are. There is nothing to prove. Being comfortable with your own company is a good place to start.
    I have simplified my life. Being sober makes all the difference. I am focussing on a richer inner life.
    You’re on the right track thinking about it now.
    My simplified life will look different to someone else’s. So will yours.
    What do you picture for yourself?

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    1. Great question! I picture living way below my means. Having tons of money saved, but not spending it – or spending it wisely and in a planned way. I would garden and exercise and I would learn and teach others the healing powers in natural plants and foods and oils. I would paint and create art. I would be calm and peaceful and I’d be deliberate about how I spent my day- controlled by me and my passions. Some of this probably comes from being 27 years in a service based industry where we have to be available to everyone based on their schedules and needs (and to always put clients needs first). So I envision something very different than that. Peace, not having to answer my phone unless I want to. Etc….

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  4. I think we all face these questions. It sounds like you could still make a living doing what you plan on doing – but on your own time. 🙂

    My plan is to be able to freelance full time, and travel while I work. Oh, to be able to do that. LOL.


  5. Oh my gosh! I’ve been thinking about this, too. I have no answers, though. I think I’ll be thinking for a bit. I love your simplification idea. You are on an exciting journey!


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