I often dream about what I would do if I didn’t have to work, be a housekeeper at home, cook and clean, manage my household… what would my perfect day consist of if I could make it however I want it?
I spend so much time working in and on my business, running the family for myself, husband, sons, mother and dog, paying bills, managing our finances. The day to day workings of a large family plus the management of a small business with 4 employees and agents is very time consuming. It eats away at my days.
I find it hard to find time for me. For my passions. For my health, my relationship with my husband. I fail to manage my personal care to the level I want to. Something has to give. I’m tired of letting my health, my relationships and my passions take the back seat to my business.
The first step in making changes is admitting you have a problem. I do think I have a problem because I’m often feeling the pressures of the business and not caring for my own needs.
I’ve lost touch with my true self. What is it that I WANT out of this life? Money isn’t everything. I’ve been focused on making and saving money. So much that the rest is suffering.
What would it feel like to have freedom. To not have to answer my phone or emails or texts. To not have to talk to staff, clients, team members every day? What would I do with my time?
I dream of reading, exercising, gardening, cooking, painting, getting massages, pedicures, manicures, facials. I dream of leisurely walks, romantic lunches, time where I’m relaxed and enjoying my relationships. I envision hikes at the beach or in the mountains. Healthy foods and yoga. Painting and writing. Watching sunsets and sunrises. Time laughing with friends and family. Deep breathing. Growing spiritually… prayer.
I’ve often wondered how I could try this our first for a few weeks, a month or two, but I haven’t figured that out yet!
I carry a lot of stress and responsibilities with me all the time. I want freedom from this. I want to feel free and find my true inner essence. How can I do this?
Have you found ways to do this? There have to be ways to step in the right direction. Any ideas? If so, please share what has worked or not worked for you!
5 thoughts on “My perfect day vs my real day”
A big hug to you Lisa Marie! I’m so proud of you for recognizing that this isn’t working and a change is necessary. You are so worthy for happiness and you’re starting to pick up what your soul is laying down. Discovery the “American Dream” isn’t what it’s all cracked up to be is huge! There’s so much pressure to keep biggering and grow grow grow your business – Capitalism 101. Heck even as a planet we are realizing this just isn’t sustainable. I would start by sitting down with your husband and boys and telling them this isn’t working anymore for you. Changes and sacrifices can be made for those we love and I know they love YOU. Believe me I know it’s hard to take our armor off and show our wounds, but it’s exactly what’s needed for freedom. You always have the choice to pivot.
Dwight you’re so on point! I like the idea but I still can’t figure out how to stop the huge powerful ball I’ve started rolling! I’m working on more time away from work for self care and getting more help at work. So far that’s the first steps.
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My own body and brain told me I had to stop the busyness and stress of life by giving me a massive bout of depression. A kind of breakdown really. I wish I’d made the time to stop, breathe and change my direction before I hit that point. It has however shown me the importance of getting off the hamster wheel. We want more, we want better, we want to be seen and recognised …. Blah blah blah. None of it matters. We matter, our relationships matter and recognising the moment matters. Good luck with finding your way 💕💕
None of it matters is so true. The family, friends, health and fun is what matters. So much to do and it leaves too little time for the important things. How to become a more calm, nurturing person? That’s the question I’m battling! With myself and with others (more caring and present).
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That’s such a difficult thing to do. That feeling of calm, peace and not sweating the small stuff is the holy grail for me. I’ve gotten better at it but I am way off ‘Zen Claire’. Yoga has helped. It takes practice that’s for sure. Xxx